SafeSparks

Discover your shared passion.

A free desires checklist for couples.
Fill out privately. Share a code. Discover what you both want. Nothing leaves your device.

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How it works

Three steps. Completely private. No account needed.

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1. Fill out your list

Rate activities across Self, Giving, and Receiving contexts — only where it makes sense. Take your time; it's for honest self-reflection.

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2. Get your code

Your answers are packed into a short shareable code. Nothing is sent to any server. Share it only with who you choose.

3. Discover your overlap

Enter each other's codes to reveal Matches, Talking points, and Gaps — computed locally in your browser.

FAQ

What is a desires checklist?

A desires checklist is a communication tool used by couples. Partners each fill out the same list independently, then compare. It helps you discover mutual interests and clarify limits — without the pressure of a live negotiation.

How does the code work?

Your answers are packed into a compact binary code. Nothing touches a server. The code is the data — no external storage. Save it to your notes, share it only with who you choose.

Is my data actually private?

Yes. SafeSparks is a static HTML page. There is no backend, no database, and no analytics. Your browser does all the work. We have no way to see your answers even if we wanted to.

Can I use this without a partner?

Absolutely. Many people use the list for self-exploration — to understand their own desires, curiosities, and limits. Save your code to revisit later.

What are HIGH RISK activities?

Items marked ⚠ HIGH RISK are activities where mistakes can cause serious harm. They require specific education, skill, and deep trust before attempting. Seek out community resources and mentors first.

What is Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)?

Safe: Minimise risk, learn about activities, negotiate boundaries. Sane: Decide with a clear head, free from pressure. Consensual: All activities freely agreed to by everyone; consent can be withdrawn at any moment.

RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) acknowledges that some activities carry inherent risk even with precautions — reducible through education and communication.

Who made SafeSparks?

SafeSparks is a free tool with no corporate backing, no subscription, and no monetisation. If you find it useful, share it with someone who might benefit.

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